There are many FAQ’s that curious clients ask about our Celebrancy services…
Here is a round up of the common FAQ’s, but we are of course always very happy to answer any others you may have. Simply complete our enquiry form or call us direct for a chat.
Do you only host ‘unusual’ ceremonies?
It’s true that I love the challenge of creating a totally bespoke ceremony for each of my clients, but I also respect that some people would still prefer a very traditional style service – and I am always very happy to oblige! This is particularly the case when clients are planning a funeral for their older relations and want to provide the service that their grandma or grandad might have expected.
Ultimately my passion for celebrancy is borne from my desire to make landmark events in your life as memorable and meaningful as possible. You will always be the best placed person to tell me what you want to achieve and by taking time to listen carefully and spend time getting to know you I will be able to help you to plan your perfect day.
What time can my service be held? Am I restricted to ‘business hours’?
There are no time restrictions for you to worry about – if you want to exchange vows at sunrise on at a stone circle, or under a full moon, I can make it happen!
Where can our celebration be held?
Namings, weddings, exchange of vows and funeral services can all be held ANYWHERE (as long as you have the landowners permission on private property). That might be in a village hall, sports clubhouse, on a beach, up a mountain (I love a challenge!) or in a theatre. There truly are no restrictions.
When can we host our event?
Again, no limitations – 365 days a year!!
How many people can I invite?
It’s entirely up to you!! Some of my ceremonies have been incredibly intimate with only a handful of people in attendance, whilst others are ‘performances’ shared with hundreds of friends and family.
Will you lead a ceremony for an intersex or same-sex family?
Of course – I love to support any family as they celebrate their love for each other, be it at a wedding, naming or funeral.
What is the difference between you and a registrar for a wedding?
I am always so pleased when I get asked this question as it provides me a fabulous opportunity to blow my own whistle about why Celebrancy is SO fabulous!!
It is true that a registrar can legally marry you at the same time as hosting your ceremony, but beyond that they are under many limitations!
A registrar cannot offer you a bespoke ceremony, instead they have to use pre-dictated words from a ‘cookie-cutter’ service provision. You will only be able to select you vows from a very small number of choices – whereas in a celebrant-led service you (or I) can write vows that come from your heart and express your true dedication to each other.
On average a registrar will spend approximately 1 hour in planning your ceremony (I will dedicate around 8 hours to just the writing element alone!)
A registrar cannot marry you in the open air, in a marquee, within or close to an area that provides alcohol or food, or in a private space. They also cannot marry you in a spiritual or religious space or allow any readings that pertain to ‘belief’ systems. I however can perform your service in any venue of your choosing (as long as it isn’t trespassing!)
So is my ceremony legally binding?
With all our ceremonies you are required to ‘register’ your event – be it a birth, death or marriage. The legal entity is totally separate to the ‘celebration’ or ‘memorial’, which allows us to completely personalise your ceremony into a unique event.
Does that mean that I have to get married twice?
No – in fact more and more people are choosing NOT to have a legal entity to their ‘wedding’, instead choosing a ‘commitment ceremony’ to each other outside of the legalities of a registered marriage.
A number of our couples have been officially married abroad and are looking for a ‘blessing’ celebration to share with their friends and family at home. For all intents and purposes this can appear to be a fully fledged wedding on the day if you should wish.
If you DO want your marriage to be recognised as a legal entity then you simply attend your local registry office to complete the ‘official’ requirements (this can in practice be attended by just yourselves and two witnesses and can be as short as 10 minutes whilst you declare your wish to be legally joined). Some of my couples will do this in the days or weeks proceeding their ‘special day’, whilst others will await their return from honeymoon to complete this part. Likewise as a marriage abroad is recognised as a legal entity within the UK some of my clients will arrange a very simple and intimate ‘wedding service’ to take place during their honeymoon and find this to be incredibly moving as it completes their dedication to each other.
We would love to hold our service abroad – can you help?
Absolutely – I’m always up for a trip away and to explore a new destination!! You will be responsible for the costs and arrangements of travel and accommodation (2 nights for European destinations and a minimum of 3 nights for long haul journey in addition to my usual fees).
When do we make payment for a funeral?
If you are utilising the services of a funeral director then they will take care of my fee on your behalf. If you are arranging the day yourself my fee is payable after you sign the contract upon booking.
When do we make payment for a wedding, naming or other celebration?
A booking fee (50% of the overall fee) will be payable upon signing the contract. This will secure your place in my diary and is non-refundable as I will not accept further enquiries for the same date as your ceremony. The remaining 50% will be invoiced shortly before our first planning meeting. Following that meeting your entire fee will be non-refundable as I will dedicate many hours of work to writing your ceremony as well as being ‘on-call’ for you in the run up to the day in case you have any questions.